Conversation Success Blog

A few weeks ago, my wife and I attended a small social function. We were the honored guests. Great, but at first no one approached us to start a conversation. That did not bother me much. However, based on past experience the reason was simple. Individuals were either shy or did not know what to say.

What should you say when you first meet someone?

Here is what I did.

Me: Hi, my name is Austin.

Other Person: Hello, I am John.

Me: Nice to meet you. This is my first time here. How long have you been coming to these events.

Simple, but effective. What if they just reply with "Hi"? Just ask, "Whats your name?"

I'll often followup with mentioning someone else I know who has the same name, "John, I have a good friend named John who lives in CA."

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Here is a bonus power tip that will show you how to instantly grab someone's attention and make a positive impression.

There are two parts:

1. Say something like…

"I heard something about you the other day."
"I noticed something about you."
"When I saw you with that customer, something came to mind."

You instantly have their attention.

Now apply part two.

2. Give a truthful, positive comment.

"Mark was saying he was impressed with you work performance."
"I noticed how fast you were at ________. Good job."
"When I saw you talking with that person, I was reminded of how good you are with customers."

Try this and let me know how it works.

Austin Barnes

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Can you easily talk with anyone and leave a great impression? Using good conversation topics will empower you to make small talk and converse with anyone. You will leave a great impression.

An interesting topic is one you both are interested in. I may be really interested in football, but if my partner has not seen a game in three years, thats an awful topic.

Bring up great conversation topics and you will impress the other person and it will be easier to build the relationship. How does a person always know what to say? Use a few of these ideas
 

Conversation Topics from Current Events

Glance at the newspaper everyday. Look for interesting stories, opinions, or comments that you are interested in and would likely interest others.  When you see a unique story, make note of it and use it later.

I may say, "Did you see the story about the man who won the lottery twice? What would you do with all that money?"

The internet is full of good conversation topics. Read interesting stories. Glance at blogs. Do this and you will be up to date on whats happening. Often I'll look for interesting facts or tidbits of information that will be of interest to others in my next conversation.

Observe to see their reaction. If they are interested in the topic, keep chasing that topic. Otherwise, I’ll bring up another topic

Conversation Questions about their Life

Every person has one subject they usually enjoy talking about. It's themselves. Ask questions and show interest in their life. This is one key having good dating conversation topics. Show interest in your partner by asking various questions.

What do you think about….?“
What are some plans you have for the future?What do you like to do in your free time?
Steer the conversation towards topics of their life you are interested in. If you are bored to death with sports, don’t ask about their favorite teams.

Seek to avoid asking questions that are too personal. The other person may start to resent you as none of us want too personal of questions!

Ask Good Conversation Questions

One good conversation questions will start conversation and turn a boring conversation into interesting small talk.
If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you live and why?

If you won Survivor, how would you spend the money?

While some topics spark conversation, others will kill it faster than a cup of water on a candle. Here are a few topics to avoid.

Any Topic Where you Complain

Avoid blaming and being down on life. No one likes to be around a person where the glass is always half empty.Focus on the positive so you'll leave a good impression.

Uninteresting Topics

Watch your conversation partner. Are they interested? If not, better switch topics. What may be interesting to one, is not interesting to the next person.

Silent pauses will creep into your conversation. Stop them by using these conversation topics and you will leave a great impression! These work whether its a conversation on a date, coaching ESL, or advancing your career.

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Mike was able to make friends fast. This led to more popularity, respect ant work and career success. What was his secret?

Mike applied three tips to making friends. You can use these tips or help others including children make more friends.

Tip #1: Be friendly.

You can’t make friends if you act like a jerk. Yes, there are exceptions, but you want to be a person that others enjoy being around.

Be kind, don’t backstab, and improve your conversation skills. Showing interest and listening will help you be friendly.

I learned very quickly that I could sell more if I made friends with customers. I would show interest, listen, and be friendly. Not only did I build good relationships, but my sales went up.

Tip #2: Be yourself

My friend men a guy online. They started the relationship and it was going very smoothly. Then they met and she found that the guy was not who he said he was. Because he put on a front, a friendship started but could not continue.

If you try to make friends online, be yourself and hope they are being themselves.

We do want to put our best foot forward, but don’t deceive others.

Tip #3: Find connections

Friendships are based finding and doing things in common. Find things in common with your co-workers, customers, school friends.
 
Several months ago I met Brad at a conference we got to talking. Using good conversations skills we had a great conversation.

During the conversation I discovered he was interested in the following:
-    NASCAR
-    Local Football team
-    Accounting
-    Starting his own business.

Two of our interests cross. I like following the local football team and enjoy starting and maintaining a small business. We launched into a long conversation about both of these. This is the start of a friendship/relationship

As you relate with people, ask questions, find connections, and build friendship.

Back to Mike. Mike makes friends and is popular because he is friendly. He acts himself and is confident with who he is. Lastly, he seeks to build connections with people he meets.

Learn from Mike and you will be able to make friends and be more popular.

(C) Austin Barnes. Instant Conversation Success.

You have just seconds to make a great first impression. Either you make a good impression or they may walk away with a negative impression. 

What is a "first impression"? Simply it is the first thoughts a person has toward you after seeing you or listening to what you have to say. These are made during the first five seconds and then the first few minutes of a conversation.

It has been said that a speaker has 5 minutes to convince the audience that he/she has something good to say. How you act, dress, and talk are all going to affect "the first impression".

A customer's first impression of a salesmen will have an impact on whether the customer buys. The first impression a manager has of you will affect whether you are hired. How you act in the first moments of meeting your new neighbor will sharply affect his/her view of you. Yes, you need to make a good first impression! It can stop a sale, or it can help you make an instant friend!

How do you make a good impression? Here is one way which is guaranteed to work. Do this and people will have excellent first thoughts about you! This is the key:

• When you meet someone (friend or new contact), greet them on the phone, or pass them on the street, act ENTHUSED to meet them.
• Give them a "winning" smile.
• Cheerfully greet them with "Hello (name)". Let your voice show that you are glad to see them.
• Act like you are greeting a best friend who has been gone for awhile.
• If you walk into a group, greet or acknowledge every person. Look them in the eye. Either verbally greet them or at least make eye contact and acknowledge every single person.
• Greet your friends, contacts, and family the same way.
• When someone calls, say a professional "Hello". When you find out who is calling, act glad to hear their voice.

What if you DO NOT feel like it? Who cares! ACT enthusiastic to meet them and you will BE enthusiastic to meet them. They will feel important and will be glad to see YOU. You will make an excellent first impression.

This technique alone will work wonders for you! You will stand out from the crowd. Customers will want to come back. When a customer sees that you are glad to have them buy from you, they will want to come back and buy MORE from YOU.

You have probably realized that puppies make friends very easily. When they greet a person they smile, wag their tail and are absolutely happy to see you. They want to be your friend. The result is that you in turn want to pet the puppy, and be the puppies friend. This same principal works with you social contacts. Be glad to see them and they will usually be glad to see you. You will make a good impression and they will like you.

A note of caution.

Do not be overly enthused to see someone. This can drive people away. Don't violate their comfort zone and pay attention to their mood. If they are in a happy mood, you can be more expressive. If they are in a sour mood, keep your energy down, but still express you are glad to see them.

You will leave a great impression when you apply this method.

(C) Austin Barnes

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 Social conversation skills are important for everyone. It will make a person more successful at dating, at work, or in family. Every person can get better conversation skills and social skills. Here are three tips to help.

3 Tips for Improving Conversation Skills

First, be nice. This is very fundamental. If you just be nice to people or treat people how you want them to treat you, then you will have improved your social skills. It’s like the old quote: if you want to make a great friend then you have to be a great friend. So, the first tip is to be nice.

The second tip is to show interest in people. What that means is that when you’re talking with someone, you show interest in their life and what they are saying. Now, so often we like to do the opposite, we want to only talk about ourselves. But no, if we use conversation starter questions and show interest they are going to enjoy us and that is going to improve our social skills.

The third tip is that you need to listen. And how do we listen? Well, you look at the person, you nod in agreement that you’re listening, make some comments. And listening will make you great at conversation. You will have mastered the art of conversation and of small talk that matter also.

Recently, I shared these three tips with an individual and they started applying them. What happened was they were able to confidently talk with about anyone. And their social conversation skills improved greatly at the same time.

Whether you are dating, at a party, or even in business is pays to have a fun conversation.

In reply to this quesiton, I am going to share three tips. Then readers please feel free to answer in the comment section and share your tips.

How to Have a Fun Conversation

• Smile
• Have a good attitude and laugh a lot.
• Find things you both enjoy talking about.

Please post your commment below.

Thanks,

Austin