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Don’t Be Intimidated

Tuesday, August 30th, 2011 at 6:29 am 
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Have you ever felt intimidated by someone?
I am not talking about a bully with large biceps and a mean scowl.
Nope.

When I coach individuals, I’ll find that many feel intimated or uncomfortable around individuals who are more successful or popular:

It could be:
- Their manager
- A celebrity
- Someone they are romantically attracted to.

- A company owner or wealthy person

- Etc
How about you? Do these types intimate you?
Do you feel at a loss as to how to talk with them?
If so, remember this line from Larry King.
“Everyone puts their pants on in the morning one leg at a time.”
In other words, we are 90%+ alike. Every person deals with the same basic human emotions. No matter what your position in life, we all have to get dressed, wash our face, and deal with life’s details.
Recognize the other person is just like us in many ways. Then you can have a great conversation. Especially if you use the tips from the Conversation Success System
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How to Talk to Unfriendly People – Day 9

Tuesday, March 17th, 2009 at 7:12 pm 
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We all have to deal with the unfriendly person. This reader is wondering:

I am very nervous when talk with the unfriendly person, especially, when I know that he or she is not like me. i want to talk frankly, but, they don’t. How can I do this?

The simple answer is… talk to them like you would anyone else. I know this is difficult, but being great at conversation comes down to focusing on showing interest, having a good attitude, and listening.

Focus on these things and keep the conversation flowing. However, if they are really unfriendly, just consider leaving the conversation.

Here is one more idea. Match their mood. If a person is in a depressed mood, don’t at cheerful. It will be really irritating! I have made this mistake before. Act a little down yourself and then slowly become more cheerful.

You want to match the mood of the person you are talking with:

Try this and see how it works.

Austin Barnes.

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