How to End a Conversation

Break into any CliqueEver felt trapped in a conversation?
Mike was droning on and on. I had enjoyed the first 20 minutes of conversation because I used some tactics from the Conversation Success System to redirect the conversation to things I was interested in.
Now, I needed to leave and network with some other people. However, Mike had a full tank of conversation needs and could go on for hours.
How could I tactfully end the conversation? How could I leave without offending him? How could I escape?
I tried the “Praise and Exit”, I waited for an opening between stories and said:
Enjoyed learning about your trip. I need to catch up with some others. See you next time!
He acknowledged I said this and then launched into story #88.
Bummer.
Next, I gave him the end the conversation vibe. 
I turned away, looked away briefly, and took a step away.
He missed the cues. (As a side note. Always be watching your conversation partner and end the conversation if you see these vibes).
It was time to be firm.
Mike, I do appreciate talking with you (I had for the first 20 minutes), but I need to catch up with John. 
I shook his hand and made an exit towards John.
Usually the “Praise and Exit” is enough. But sometimes you have to be firm or you’ll be in prison for three hours.
Ending the conversation is an art just like starting a conversation. Both are covered in the Conversation Success System.
Master both and you’ll make friends and increase your chance of success in business and life.

 

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World Series & Conversation Skills

baseball-in-grass-1395007-mI’m a Baseball fan…during the world series. And then only if I remember to turn on the TV.

Except this year. I’m glued to  the TV as I like the Royals.

You may or may not watch, but there is a powerful conversation tip to be learned from the World Series.
Players do well on the field because they have honed and practiced their skills.
Jamie had poor conversation skills. She craved improvement!
 I told her to take 5 minutes a day and practice smiling, using conversation starters, and having a listening face.
She did this in front of a mirror. Within a week her skills had completely changed.
No longer did she look bored.
No longer did she have a scowl.
No longer did she repel people.
Practicing a few minutes will hone your skills for the world series of life.
That’s why I include practical exercises in the Conversation Success System.
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Plane Crashes & Conversation Skills

airplane-1056260-mDo you enjoy flying? We do.

I feel safer zipping across the sky’s  than navigating the roads with texting drivers.

Experts say you are 19 times safer in a plane than driving.

Why the incredible safety record of planes?

Partly due to a check list.

A checklist is a list of steps or items that need to be done.

Before the flight, the pilot pulls out his folder and checks off to make sure the fuel is full, etc.

When something goes wrong, they pull out their checklist to find out how to fix it.

Think back to New York, five years ago. The Airbus 320 took off and then two geese rammed into their engines. The plane made an emergency landing in the Hudson river within three minutes. 

Checklists saved the day.

When the engines went out, the pilots followed a checklist to try to start them. The flight attendants followed a checklist to prepare for landing in the river. The evacuation followed the checklist.

Checklists are powerful!

As I was reading on the power of Checklists, I was reminded that the Conversation Success System is like a checklist.

It shows the steps to use when:

  • You greet someone
  • You need to make a friend
  • You need to exit a conversation
  • You need to leave a powerful impression
  • & much more.

Also, explains them in great detail.

Just the other day I was teaching a few teens some Conversation Skills. I told them the four steps to use when you meet someone. 

I had them practice on some adults in the room. The adults were amazed at the poise, confidence, and positive impression these teens left just by following this simple checklist.

Follow specific steps in conversation and your skills will rapidly improve!

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