Conversation Success Blog

Do you miss people’s names when they introduce themselves?

Do people remember your name?

My wife and I went on a date to the Olive Garden a couple nights ago. We slid into our booth and buried our noses in the menu.

Within 2 minutes a tall, clean shaven young man walked up and said:

Hi,mynameisMikey.WhatcanIgetyoutodrink?

I missed his name. Was it my fault or his fault? His fault.

Here is the conversation tip that stood out to me and he should have used.

Pause before and after you say your name.

Mikey should have said this:

Hi, my name is…. …. Mikey …. What can I get you to drink?

In public speaking a pause signals an important point is coming and grabs attention. The same works when introducing yourself.

Try this and let me know how it works.

Have some fun and take your significant other out on a date. If you don’t have a significant other, brush up on your conversation skills.

Good Saturday Morning,

My young daughter is chowing down on a banana. When she finishes, she’ll be ready for some attention. I’ll make this quick.

A week ago my wife, daughter and I headed into the local grocery store. Checking us out was a blond, medium height, young lady.

She looked sad. Her normally pretty face showed she had been through a rough day.

Checkout clerks have a challenging task. For 8+ hours they stand there, doing the same tasks, trying to be cheerful, and make others happy.

Evidently this clerk’s tank of gas had run out.

My wife and I immediately engaged her in conversation and laughed and joked with her using techniques from the 4 Conversation Tips of the Rich and Famous.

By the time we were done she was cheerful and we felt good because we had brightened her day.

Do you brighten the day of people around you? Or are you like a dark cloud that people see coming and seek to hide from.

Spread the joy through good conversation skills.

My daughter is calling,

Austin Barnes

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It’s 4:00 in the afternoon and I am standing near the front of the retail store where I worked in college.

The door rings as it opens. Two men stride one. One tall and other short and stout. They looked to be in a rotten mood. In fact I would have preferred to push a button and be whisked away.

Since these buttons have not been invented yet, I approached the tall one.

I cheerfully said, “Hello Sir, how can I help you?”

He paused. Made eye contact and said, “What are you so happy about?”

I froze and realized I made a mistake that could ruined any chance of conversation success.

Here is the Rule:

Match the mood of the other person.

If you are feeling great, do you enjoy it when a person has an attitude that rains on your parade?

Or if you are feeling a little depressed do you want to talk to someone who is on top of the world?

No, its downright irritating. The answer is to match the mood of other person as described in the Conversation Success System.

Back to the fateful day.

I was taken back and said in a calm sympathetic voice, “Things are going well. How can I help you.”

By matching Their mood I was able to salvage the conversation.

Today, match the mood of the people you talk with.

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